I want to learn to…

  1. Run a professional design company.
  2. Say No when I feel it is No.
  3. Accept others and not want them to change.
  4. Stop pushing my kids too hard.
  5. Spend more time nurturing my teenage son.
  6. Grow my own food in my own land.
  7. Appreciate the life I have instead of always working towards or wishing for a better one.
  8. Help other people without damaging myself.
  9. Deal with my demons without relapsing to worse ones.
  10. Speak and act in a calm manner instead of anger and rush.

MeMeMe

I have been labelled as vain, self-centred, in love with myself etc.

Maybe I am, don’t blame me, I was born so, and my uncle knew it, before I could even speak, that I will be me, love me, talk about me, embrace me, against all odds. and he named me Nomna, No-Mna, Me, myself and I, in direct translation.

I have been thinking lately, why is it so bad to talk about, share, embrace me? Is it better if I talk about everyone else? Doesn’t that make me a gossipmonger? Umxabanisi? Gqadambekweni?

Every conversation begins with general info, world news, interests, and when that runs out, either you reveal a little bit (to a stranger) or a bit more (to a friend, your people) about yourself. When is it considered vain? If I don’t talk about myself when everything else runs out, I will ask about you, and you will label me as “uthanda indaba zabantu”. If I can’t ask you about you, I have to talk/ask about other people. In my dictionary that is labelled as gossiping.

So, make up your mind, which do you prefer, and inform me, before you label me vain, or a gossip monger. I can do both.

But I prefer to be me, worry about me, do me, love me and talk about me first. Should you choose, I would love to hear about you too!!!!