I am Ncumisa Nomna Mbusi, welcome to my world of thoughts…
I love dreaming about all things possible in life, also overthinking problems and solutions to a myriad things in life.
I am an intuitive change coach with my heart on the sleeve, opening up my heart to air experiences and documenting these vivid imaginations, experiences and journeys through writing.
My journey is riddled with highs and lows, bests and worsts. This blog is made up of my authentic stories of showing up in the world, putting myself out there and living my best life.
It also features those who cross my path and pepper it with inspiration, wisdom, growth, friendship and love. I continue to write in this blog because I have found writing to be therapeutic to my mind that’s always on serious over-drive, thus freeing my soul to live a positive life, spiritually inclined to my core soul purpose.
I am sharing those writings with the world because… Why not? Maybe, just maybe, someone may resonate and get inspired, healed, motivated and understood. Or even just know that we are not alone in this world… perhaps positively change someone’s perspective on their reality.
Why? Because, positivity can be a cure to the world’s ills and problems….
I dared into my private blog roll and discovered ramblings of interesting read including this story, which I have kept in my treasure chest called WordPress for 8 years!
Today we air the chest and clear the air!
For we now know better,
we are more confident,
and we see clearly!
With SPIRIT EYES
The unconditional type of LOVE,
Did I really cry and pine over a heartbreak that long???
As above, so below
Ncumisa Nomna Mbusi – 07 May 2020
On the 3rd November, exactly 3 months today, I was told, “I don’t love you anymore”.
It was in the morning, I knew his mind and attention had been somewhere else for weeks, but I didn’t see it coming.
I thought to myself, “well, the honeymoon phase is waning he’s mourning that, we will be fine”.
No, we were far from being fine.
You might ask why I state that I didn’t see it coming, when things hadn’t been okay for a short while before that.
Well, the reason is simple and straight forward. It always is for all women.
I thought he will get over it, I thought I will not give him the satisfaction of leaving him because he was acting differently, because then he would walk away guilt free, move on and never look back, I would give him his ticket to freedom.
Yes we had our challenges, but I didn’t want him to leave!
He said it, and I was dumb struck.
I didn’t know what to do nor say.
The shock of this man’s guts!!!
We all know men don’t like being the bad cops hence they always play mind games until you figure it out yourself and make it official.
He was that brave, he told me, just like that, “I don’t love you anymore”.
After 3 months of begging, tears and stalking phone calls and numerous phone calls to my girlfriends, here I am, today, rocking the most daring hairstyle of my entire being, with a killer outfit, trembling and sweaty palms.
I’m supposed to be excited.
The hairstyle worked, I finally got them to notice me and ask for my phone numbers.
I needed them to notice me and ask for my phone numbers. Just so I wouldn’t have to think about him every passing moment of my time hoping and praying he calls, wondering if he will ever say “I was wrong”.
Learning happens one day at a time. Winning ideas spring up one moment at a time. Wisdom is ignited one conversation at a time. Legacies are created one experience at a time. Change happens one person at a time.
Perseverance, patience and openness to adventure are sure ways to acquire and achieve that which we seek.
What’s in our minds, hearts and soul is hidden from the earth if we dare not take a step towards adventure and bring it to life through conversations, affection and actions.
How can you ensure that you give gifts that matter to the recipient?
The key to spot-on gifts is knowing the person you will be gifting well. Their tastes and interests are a great cue for that. This applies to all kinds of gifts from birthdays, special occasions to random ‘I appreciate you’ gifts.
I personally am one for practical, thoughtful gifts that give the recipient something they need or have been hoping for; that will make an immediate impact in their lives.
Living gifts such as plants also are winners. They outlive their value by continuing to be reminders on a regular basis. Careful that the person being gifted with a house plant appreciates taking care of them. Some people may not appreciate plants that need to be cared for.
Journals can save the day if it’s an acquaintance or a colleague you’re buying a gift for. They are just the right kind of personal for the unfamiliar recipient and professionally relevant at work.
Experiential gifts are still winners in terms of creating lasting memories. Gifts such as a day of adventure or a pampering treat may not offer any tangible tokens to display and touch, but fill the heart with life and memories. No amount of money can replace great life experiences!
That being said, surprising daring gifts that propel a loved one to look at life differently also make great gifts. Do know though that they may not initially always be received with enthusiasm since they will push the envelope a bit.
If the gift is meaningful, it will always serve its purpose, even if it has been re-gifted to someone else by the person you had initially bought it for.
It is the thought and love that counts, the more genuine your sentiment, the more appreciated the gift will be, wherever it lands😊.